Caring

When it comes to me caring about people and telling them what I think, it always comes across another way and backfires on me. It's happened twice in a day and I'm sort of sick of it. Despite how somebody shows that they care, as long as it's not physical and doesn't involve others other than you and the person, I don't think it's a bad thing. With me, I end up coming across as "nosey" and the sort of person who doesn't mind my own business.

I used to think caring was a good thing, something to be proud of since it depicted and showed the fact that you were able to empathise with another person and be understanding. Then sometimes my perspective of caring about others would change. Especially when they don't recognise or appreciate it. 

So much I could go on about-

Well alright then I'm sorry that I cared, as a matter of fact what if I stopped caring I mean that'll be one less person on your back who has always tried to be some sort of safety net to pick you back up when you choke or crash.

People who ask "are you okay?" Sure it seems to have a little meaning but what else can they say? Think about that next time. If you saw someone on the street who was on their knees, whether or not they're crying or they're just there on the ground, the first thing you'd most likely ask (if you had the decency to) would be "are you okay?" right?

Even with a friend, if he's pissed, she's pissed or they're crying, you'd most likely approach them and say "are you okay?" or "don't worry about it, it's fine/it'll be alright". Seems meaningless enough, until you're the person whose hurt, would you rather have a stranger/friend say that to you or have nobody there at all.

Why do I ask? Because despite how close I am with people I know, regardless of strength of our relationship, along with most other guys I know, we can't stand there without the urge of asking "are you okay?"; "is there anything I can do to help?", questions like that.

Imagine of all of us stopped. You can just sit there and we'd watch you like most commoners do.

Now this leads me to another subtopic, do people really care or are they just nosey like you assumed I was. How can you tell right? Well first of all, it's the person themselves. Do they seem like the type to care or do you know them as the type of person to wonder around spreading talks and just the type to want to know what happens around them? Yeah that's an obvious one, people who don't care will approach you and just ask questions of no relevance like "hey, do you hate this person", "when was the last time you talked to ...." need I go on? Maybe it's just me but It's really obvious for me and when people do that, I'd just generically respond with the "I don't know".

People who do care are sometimes the people you least expect. I will tell you from time to time when we can chat privately  but I won't be the person to give you shit for what you do because a person who cares just wants to be there to help you and let you know what they think to ensure that you don't get hurt and remain happy.